My parents are old. And not in the 'everybody says their parents are old' kind of way. While I am the tender age of 28, my mom is 65 and my dad is going to be 70 in April. Those are the breaks when you're the youngest of six children. (And I will forever be left knowing that my older siblings all spent more time with our parents than I ever will.)
I should count myself lucky because I enjoy spending time with my parents. I know my situation isn't exactly the norm. For one, my parents are still married. Over forty years of marital
After talking to my dad, my anxious mind went into a similar spiral to the one I just exhibited. I was saddened at the thought of my parents not remaining their spry selves. Of their embarrassment when the time comes for them to need help doing daily tasks. And the realistic potential of consoling one after the other one passes. But I quickly realized that I was leading myself down an unhealthy path. After all, the 'what ifs' are a token sign of anxiety. And once I start down that road, it gets harder and harder to turn around and rush back to safety.
So instead I chose to remind myself that this is a habit I'm trying to break. No one knows the future so there is no need to fret about it. The only thing worrying will do is lead me right down the path I'm trying to avoid.
So I took a deep breath and put a smile on my face. That's a good start.
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Yeah. Why worry when they're still here. Matt doesn't have that luxury any more. :(
I was going to say...but you summed it up in your last sentence. Enjoy.
I like how you said 'marital work'. Very aptly put!
First, I didn't know there are six kids in your family. Second, I was having a discussion on the way to Key West about how it is not ideal to have children around the age of 40. She insisted it is ok which in some cases it might be. However, I completely forgot this side of things. I lost my mom 30 days before I turned 50--hard at any age. My dad died when I was your age--he never knew our Jon boy. That said, your parents sound like they are doing things right and will live to be 100.
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